Laurelin in the Rain

March 6, 2006

Here’s my freedom of speech, now I’ve heard yours

Filed under: A* Posts, Feminism, Political/ Personal, Violence — Laurelin @ 2:31 pm

We’ve all heard this before. We criticize pornography, explaining what it is, what it does, what it depicts, what it means, how it hurts. And before we know it, we have to deal with Larry Flynt Clone #120258202 wailing ‘But it’s my freeeeeeedom of speeeeeech! Freedom to offend!’ etc.

Translation: ‘Since we have freedom of speech, and I’ve got money and power behind me, shut the fuck up, I don’t like what you’re saying’.

Say for a minute we take the laughable idea that pornography somehow constitutes ’speech’ seriously. Free speech applies equally to me and to Larry Flynt. If LF can ’speak’ through pornography, so can I speak when I tell him exactly what his speech is and does. And ’stop trying to silence meeeee’ does not answer my objections on any level. Nor does it invalidate what I have to say. If you speak freely, be prepared to be called on it by others who are permitted to speak just as much as you. Don’t say things you can’t defend intellectually. The answer to bad speech is better speech, as we know.

So when the pornographer speaks, we can talk back. But is pornography itself ’speech’?

Pornography is real. That woman in the picture, having all sorts of indignities inflicted on her? That’s real. That’s happening. She’s not a senseless mannequin, she’s a human being. She is not speaking, she is not expressing her sexuality (as the pro-porn cheerleaders claim), she is following a script written for her by a man. She is appearing in the role of what-the-pornographic-mind-wants-her-to-be. Her sounds of pleasure are acting, put on, in order to keep up the charade that women enjoy degradation, pain and humiliation at the hands of men.

I can hear the objection to what I am saying already: ‘She chose to do this. It’s her choice’. If only it were that simple.

Choices exist in a context. One chooses the best option available in any one context, at any one time. Very few women go into pornography or prostitution because that is what the genuinely want to do, or because this is the one choice of many others which they regard as being the best for them. Katherine Viner, in the Guardian, notes that:

[W]omen are being killed (since 1990, more than 70 prostitutes are known to have been murdered in the UK); they are being beaten and raped (60% of prostitutes say this has happened to them in the last year); and they are exploited because of their drug addictions (95% are dependent on heroin or crack). Former prostitutes report severe levels of trauma.

Paul Holmes, the former head of the Metropolitan police vice unit at Charing Cross, said: “In my 32 years working in vice, I can count on one hand the number of working girls who were not coerced or abused.” The men who visit prostitutes are deluding themselves if they think what they’re doing is just an another harmless commercial transaction, like shopping for gadgets.

Pornography is prostitution in front of a camera, and women in the industry are often hideously abused, being coerced into painful and unpleasant practices. Pornography now must be more vicious, more violent, more painful more contemptuous of women than ever. It is an obsession, and the nature of obsession means that it won’t get any better. These acts are happening to real women, the vast majority of whom would not be in the industry had they not suffered from sexual abuse and rape.

As usual, I can’t say it better than Andrea Dworkin:

Pornography is an essential issue because pornography says that women want to be hurt, forced, and abused; pornography says women want to be raped, battered, kidnapped, maimed; pornography says women want to be humiliated, shamed, defamed; pornography says that women say No but mean Yes–Yes to violence, Yes to pain.

Also: pornography says that women are things; pornography says that being used as things fulfills the erotic nature of women; pornography says that women are the things men use.

Also: in pornography women are used as things; in pornography force is used against women; in pornography women are used.

Also: pornography says that women are sluts, cunts; pornography says that pornographers define women; pornography says that men define women; pornography says that women are what men want women to be.

Also: pornography shows women as body parts, as genitals, as vaginal slits, as nipples, as buttocks, as lips, as open wounds, as pieces.

Also: pornography uses real women.

Also: pornography is an industry that buys and sells women.

Also: pornography sets the standard for female sexuality, for female sexual values, for girls growing up, for boys growing up, and increasingly for advertising, films, video, visual arts, fine art and literature, music with words.

Women are abused in the name of pleasure. Women are terrorised in the name of capitalism. Women are raped in the name of ‘free speech’. The sex industry uses and spits out the most vulnerable people: women, children. Jenna Jameson, the most famous porn star of them all, was the victim of gang rape and of a husband who acts more like a pimp. Linda Marchiano (Lovelace), was raped, beaten and tortured by her ‘husband’, and compelled to make the film Deep Throat, which is still shown on TV today.

Tell me again how this is free speech, and tell me again how this is harmless.

21 Comments »

  1. What it all boils down to is some man saying that somewhere there is a woman who LIKES to be gagged by dick!! Either that, or (more often) they say something like “It’s harmless because I SAY it’s harmless!”

    Of course the real truth of it is less flattering. The real truth is that they don’t give a fuck how many women are being raped or beaten to provide them with porn. They honest to gods do not care about women who are hurt in the making of porn, or women hurt at any tier. To them, women are expendable and they are incapable of feeling any sort of empathy for the pain of a woman.

    Sadly, this is not a surprise since porn lowers your ability to feel empathy for women. They’re simply reacting the way that logic would dictate they act when they have no empathy for the pain of women.

    Comment by bitingbeaver — March 6, 2006 @ 3:03 pm

  2. Thanks for writing this, L. I have hard time taking porno on, finding the right words. You have done this with excellence! BB makes some great points about me there as well :)

    Comment by Kaka Mak — March 6, 2006 @ 3:19 pm

  3. YIKES! I met ABOVE me–as in her comment about mine–NOT ABOUT me! Gaa!

    Comment by Kaka Mak — March 6, 2006 @ 3:19 pm

  4. See, I did it again–wrote “about” instead of “above.”
    Leaving now, before I break something…

    Comment by Kaka Mak — March 6, 2006 @ 3:21 pm

  5. Well MY porn is different. :(

    Just wanted to say it before someone else inevitably did.

    Comment by Burrow — March 6, 2006 @ 7:45 pm

  6. Like Kaka, I’m having trouble tackling porn and it helps to sort out my own thoughts by reading excellent posts like yours.

    Comment by Kat — March 6, 2006 @ 7:54 pm

  7. Wow Laurelin, brilliant post!

    Comment by Andrea — March 7, 2006 @ 11:24 am

  8. Excellent excellent post!

    Comment by Laura — March 7, 2006 @ 12:29 pm

  9. You’ve done it again Laurelin – fab post!

    Comment by witchy-woo — March 8, 2006 @ 8:34 pm

  10. a girl of my age once told me prostitution wouldnt exist if women werent willing to be prostitutes….. see how wrong the world is.

    i think with thing like pornography theres a massive problem with the normalisation of sex culture, because to turn a fetish or find the new market they have to turn deeper and darker. and it makes it hard to indulge in turning a blind eye and helping people learn to boycott and turn against cruel establishments, because you know if people are in danger, or weaker people are being exposed openly to danger that you have to step up and do something.

    a good read as always.

    Comment by charlotte — March 9, 2006 @ 3:34 pm

  11. Great post! I’m amazed at how many people think “freedom of speech” means “freedom from criticism.”

    Comment by HeoCwaeth — March 13, 2006 @ 7:13 am

  12. Hey cool post, especially the part about choice. I always find it so frustrating when debating these issues with guy friends because they genuinely believe the majority of women in porn are there because they really want to be porn stars – when I ask ‘do you think women REALLY aspire to be in porn over anything else’ they stare at me blankly and my head explodes in a comical cartoon fashion, with added steam coming out my ears. Choice does exist entirely in context and I shall use that line in my next argument/debate/cartoon episode..:-)

    Comment by pixiewitch — April 6, 2006 @ 7:45 pm

  13. would like to know more about pronography and its effects on society… reltionship with rape and its effect to family. My desire is to fight this vice that has penetrated in our country Kenya where rape is escalating speedily.

    Comment by Kagunda J. — May 15, 2006 @ 8:25 pm

  14. [...] Pornography is not speech. Speech is what I’m doing right now, or what the people in the conversation about pornstitution are doing, or what the guy on the street who shouts about Jesus is doing. Once you have to use the bodies of other people to speak, it is not speech. I’ve said all this before, of course. The people demanding the end of pornography and the end of sexist exploitation are not The Powers That Be. If only we were! Just to make sure, I’m going to censor the abuse of women, right… now! [...]

    Pingback by FAC, ditch the MelonFarmers « Laurelin in the Rain — September 5, 2006 @ 10:29 am

  15. Reading this article was difficult for me, because, as a woman, I WANT to be humiliated. I want to be hurt by a man. I want to be used. That is how I like sex. Of all the men I’d talked to, none actually expect women to act like life is a hardcore porn movie. None expect women to actually “be like that.” And when I tell them, well, yes, I do want you to do those things to me… I get shock. Disgust. A lot of men (most, in my case) are no longer interested in me after this revelation.

    Struggling with I precieve to be “out of the ordinary” desires, it is difficult to read material that implies I am abnormal. I know that I am not — I simply embrace a darker side of sensuality (and I have never been raped or abused). The truth is, some women get off on this stuff. Some men get off on this stuff. It’s just that they have never been rewarded for have sexual desires like this before. In effect, it’s an issue of marketing. Pornagraphy has less to do with defining a woman’s sexuality, and more to do with what’s going to make a buck.

    Comment by Allison — December 14, 2006 @ 3:18 am

  16. I like porn.

    But I do not like dregrading, painful, etc. porn.

    Are you against porn per se, or are you against certain kinds of porn? Whatever the case it is imperative you make this clear.

    Comment by PP — December 22, 2006 @ 12:33 pm

  17. The “woman” if it really is a woman because it could really be a man writing this sick bullcrap, who claims to like to be hurt,humiliated and used in sex, if it is really a woman it just goes to further prove the damading powerful effects of pornograohy and how it sexualizes and normalizes men’s sick hatred,dominance and abuse of women! And how it teaches this is normal heterosexuality to some women too!

    To the poster PP who says they like some porn and asked if we are against all pornography or just some types, I have seen plenty of typical pornography and I just saw a lotmore on these new pornography blogs where they give a description of each pornographic video with a still picture that you click on to watch them. And once again it confirmed ann validated how extremely sexist,woman-hating,dehumanizing and violent all typical pornography is.

    It’s unreal how this typical pornography is classified as non violent pornography when again and again the descriptions are of sluts and bit*ches being fu*ked hard,slammed,banged,and pounded by huge monster co*ks. One describes a slut being pounded by the monster co*k of her best friend,another says this slut is fu*ked so hard in the ass until she screams,another video is titled This Bit*ch Hates Facials you see she like most women find it totally degrading and gross to be ejaculated on her face,so she’s a bitch since all of the women in pornography are portrayed as if they love this, so she has to be taught a lesson and they ejaculate on the b*tches face to spite her. Other videos were describing throat f*cking and sluts gagging on big c*cks. Another describes a whore sister being f*cked hard, another describes a mother I’d Like To F*ck being slammed by two huge c*cks in her own home after she puts her two small children to bed. Another has a stepfather who video taped his stepdaughter f*cking herself. Another has a slut getting a facial in public etc. So the message is that all or most women want and liked to be f*cked hard,banged,slammed,and pounded by all men with huge c*cks all of the time in every orifice even our sh*itholes.

    Comment by CMH — February 12, 2007 @ 8:00 pm

  18. I just noticed I made a few typing mistakes. Also I wanted to add that pornography also teaches that all or most women want and enjoy not only being used as nothing but f*ck openings, and pounded,banged,and slammed in every orfice and ejaculated all over too,and as nothing but things to feel,f*ck,ejaculate on and forget! And these pornography blogs actually rate this sick damaging crap with 3 and 4 stars and tell how many votes it got, like 30 or 40,etc like they are rating songs!

    Comment by CMH — February 12, 2007 @ 8:07 pm

  19. I also forgot to add,that if typical pornography that shows and describes sluts and bi*ches being fu*ked hard,and slammed,banged and pounded by huge c*cks is considerd non violent pornography,what would it take for it to be considered violent? Do the men have to shoot or the stab the women,or just f*ck even harder than usual until they kill them?

    Comment by CMH — February 12, 2007 @ 8:13 pm

  20. This is very nice and informative post. I have bookmarked your site in order to find out your post in the future.

    Comment by Only For Kids — August 16, 2007 @ 7:32 pm

  21. Not much you can say. This is male evil, it is the deliberate manifestation of all that men hate about women. That men love this so much says a lot about their inhumane nature. And, they want their billion dollar profits. It’s about money. Like other vices– gambling being another one, it all fits together for the male agenda for women.
    Women are used by men, and men feel entitled to sexually enslaving girls and women. If women have choices, they NEVER do any of this stuff. Real choice is when there is education available, plenty of decent jobs, and decent pay for women. They don’t do this sort of thing to men.

    Comment by JayneBB — April 13, 2009 @ 9:46 pm


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